Its My Birthday and I’ll Cry If I Want to

March 5, 2015 7 Comments
Blossom Print Shirt & Shorts – Wolf & Whistle*
Holographic clutch – Asos (Gold version)
Boots – Topshop
Rings – New Look

So today is my birthday and up until a couple of weeks ago I wasn’t really in the mood to celebrate. As the date came looming closer I couldn’t help but feel down about the fact I was turning another year older. Add into this the countless tweets and blog posts I’ve seen from people stressing out that they’re turning 30 or god even worse turning 25!!

Today I am turning 34.

There I said it. 

When I turned 30 I didn’t  panic like a lot of people do as I was pretty happy about my life and where my future was heading. I had a wonderful boyfriend with whom marriage was definitely on the cards and we were looking for a house so I knew that was coming in the future too. It didn’t matter me that certain boxes weren’t ticked because I knew that more than likely they weren’t far off being so.
As the years passed I bought a house, I got engaged, I got a dog, then I got married, I started up my blog again after the wedding and I went on honeymoon. Quite a lot to happen in 4 years. And of course I had a few more birthdays.

So why did I feel so down about this birthday?

I love my blog I really do and I love being part of  the blogging community, but for a long time now I’ve been struggling with the fact I’m not a 25 or god even 30 year old blogger. Its so easy to compare yourself to other people, its human nature and its why I’ve become more self conscious about getting older. There seems to be a lack of bloggers in this mid 30’s age range like me, or if they are out there they’re certainly not making themselves known and I’ll be honest neither was I till now.
Plus there’s the other big B issue! Babies!! I’m not ready in myself have children yet and neither is my other half but I can’t help feel a pressure of time when I see my age years clocking up. All this amounted to me being one very big party pooper when it came to my birthday this year.

But I’ve decided to change that. 
Firstly I’ve decided to embrace the age bracket I’m in blog wise, play to my strengths and focus my blog on my style and my life. I’m building long term relationships with brands that I think reflect me and the kind of style I have and hopefully will appeal to a similar age bracket, as well as younger and older. Also accept the fact I’m not going to be wearing baby pink fluffy co-ords or tiny skin-tight bralets, but focus on what I like to wear and have fun with it. Life wise I’m focusing on the things I want to do right now and not worrying too about whats around the corner.

So will I be celebrating my birthday? Hell yeah and in style with one major shopping spree at Lakeside tonight and dinner at Yo Sushi. Plus a trip to an amazing 5 Star hotel in Egypt for a holiday. I can’t wait! Something tells me 34 is going to be a very good year.
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  • Ashleigh - March 5, 2015 at 11:47 am

    Happy birthday! You look brilliant for your age so I wouldn’t worry about it too much :) So jealous you’re going to Egypt!

    Ashleigh | Being Ashleigh blogv

  • Caramel Latte Kiss March 5, 2015 at 1:08 pm

    Do you read Not Dressed As Lamb? She’s a blogger in her 40s, and if I’m half as glam as she is by then, I’ll be happy. Great proof that age is but a number, and blogging isn’t just a game for the 20-somethings.

  • Eloise March 5, 2015 at 11:39 pm

    No way are you 34, I’d have said you were around 25/26! I know exactly how you feel though, sometimes I get a bit frustrated that I’m not 23 with a cool fringe but I’m going to try and play to my strengths too : )

    Have a fab shopping trip and an even better time in Egypt! xx

  • vanity andme March 6, 2015 at 12:46 am

    It’s not about how old you are, its about your style and how you present yourself! And your doing a great job. Do not worry about your age, promote it,your style is great, and you look fantastic. I worried about starting a blog as I have turned 50 and believe me there are less of us type bloggers out there!
    Laurie x

  • Melissa Lee July 7, 2015 at 11:22 am

    Hey :) just found your blog through your comment on LBQ about 30+ bloggers. Really glad I found it! I am 36 and struggle to find blogs showcasing fashion for those of us who don’t feel like wearing clothes meant for the younger crowd. I really struggle with knowing what I apparently ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t’ wear at my age, so I love finding inspiration online and I just love your outfit above :) looks great.

  • Dorothy December 30, 2015 at 4:07 pm

    I’ve just discovered your blog, and I adore your style! I was flicking through your posts and came across this one and couldn’t help but feel sad about how much you dreaded your birthday! you look amazing, age is just a number!

    Celebrating birthdays and growing older is something a lot of people do not get the privilege of experiencing, which is why I always fully embraced every birthday and make sure I’m truly grateful!

    Anyway, sorry for the random comment. Your blog is fabulous, as are you, keep it up! xx

    • Debs January 2, 2016 at 4:07 pm

      Thanks so much Dorothy thats so so kind of you xxx

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